Today, everything has a 'tag' on it as the 'labelling' practise supposedly makes it easier for the brain to comprehend a situation. Whether the 'tag' is a price to pay,an indicator of importance,a nickname,or derogatory comment.
The tag of 'fat ridicule' can take the target down from a great distance. From the schooltime 'touch game' where you are always first to be 'got',to adulthood when a playful comment or just plain confrontational bullying becomes extremely hurtful. If you are 'fat tagged',you are a target figure and ridicule,in it's major or minor forms,hurts big time.
There can be nothing worse than to have an overweight dinner guest who feels it their duty to bore the pants off fellow diners, by intimately detailing how they lost 18 pounds (around 8 kilograms in metric fat) over two years. Though politely nodding and reassuringly admiring by return, that person is immediately mentally 'tagged' as the dinner guest not to invite next time. It's not just informal gatherings where the 'fat tag' comes into play but also in the general run of day socialising.
If you have lost some overweight,it shows in your talk,your walk,your confidence and self-esteem. Without hesitation we approve and mentally engage, as the proof of the pudding (sorry) is standing in front of us. As a 'desert flower' blossoms rapidly at the merest hint of rain so also does the 'slimmer' who achieves a glimpse of what is possible. What is needed now is to understand the difference between deserts and desserts. An occasional visit to each is fine but too much of either will kill you.
Many circumstances arise when we are forced to view ourselves as others see us. Stripped bare of our clothed facade prior to daily bathing,lovemaking,beach lounging or just dressing,we see our 'bodily' self and our reaction might be to:- (1) Shudder and shake our heads in disbelief at what we have become (2) Kid our-self that what we see is not that bad (3) Admire our-self and what we have physically achieved
Separation of the 'self' is of critical importance. This 'self' is our deep rooted personal identity in life and holds the keys to our mental well-being. Leave it to the psychologists to go deeper BUT if we see our-self as weak and submissive, that is what we become,if we see ourselves as a fighter who will not easily give up, that is what we become.
We mentally record a deep hurt if ridiculed,no matter if spoken or intimated in the banter of love. The pointed arrow hits an 'outwardly hidden' target. In our quiet reflective time the 'fat-tag' hurts deeply. Nightly despair quickly bleeds into the day's routine unless corrective action is taken. Each layer of fat added is measured in degrees of sadness whereas each layer lost causes disproportional elation..
The way in which we see our 'self' is critical to our mental well-being. Our ability to stand with others,sociably happy, is a great feeling. If we feel that others are 'fat tagging' us, we are disturbed though not necessarily showing this discomfort, in company. We have to determine to strip the fat away and remove some of the lardy layers that weigh more heavily on our minds than our body. The trick is not to see our-self as 'impossibly overweight' but 'possibly overweight'. We can deal with 'possibly overweight' as that self-impression leaves the door open for improvement.
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